You can achieve your goals by first understanding yourself and then the principles that control your work, life, and actions. Without understanding how you operate in life. No amount of goal setting can help you. You achieve goals by understanding yourself and your goals.
We have to understand ourselves first, and then you can achieve the goals you have set for your life.
The path to achieving goals looks something like this:
- Breaking old beliefs and habits
- Forming new beliefs and habits
- Change your surrounding
- Goal setting in a S.M.A.R.T way
You and I can probably agree that we as humans, have almost unlimited capabilities, potential, and abilities inside us.
We are a species that have evolved the most. We can create new things and evolve our surrounding. We have abilities that no other species have.
We can do amazing things with our bodies and minds. I think that the sky is not the limit to human potential and this was already witnessed by NASA being able to land a man on the moon.
So how do we tap into the inner power we have. How can we achieve the goals we want in our lives. Why is it important to accomplish the things we dream of?
For us to evolve, we need to pursue the things we desire the most. You can desire wealth, health, relationships. There is always something we dream of. Something we desire. Goals that we have.
It is more than likely something you have heard, seen or experienced and want to have it for yourself. You might have seen a cool car, have read about a lifestyle, have tasted delicious food. You have experienced something, and you want more of it, or you want to have it in your life permanently.
It’s that inner desire that is driving you forward, that inner dream of achieving something, becoming something more. Something you have visioned yourself to be or something to have.
Lets’ go through how you can achieve your goals in life and anything you set your mind to.
1. Breaking old beliefs and habits
If you think what is keeping you from achieving your goals in life. Is it your mindset, habits, thoughts on life, the way of living. What is it?
It’s the combination of all those things. However, the key to success and achieving your goals, dreams, and desires is to break your old belief patterns and habits.
The thing that is restricting you is your mind.
There’s no greater power than the power of the mind. At least that’s what I like to think. I haven’t always felt like this. I have gone a process of evolution that has enabled me to believe I can achieve anything in life.
I’ve had wrong beliefs and wrong attitude towards life. I have thought that I don’t have the resources or strength to evolve. I’m not smart enough.
These are called false beliefs. Beliefs that do you no good. Beliefs that restrict you from achieving your goals.
Beliefs that don’t make you any good
Beliefs are all learned and something the outside world has given you as facts through experiences. You believe something and take it as a fact or as the sole truth. That is so far from the truth, though.
Your inner beliefs are one of the things that are holding you back, and that should be broken for you to advance. It’s so logical if you think about it.
If you have old beliefs that are holding you back, how can you ever move forward into new territories? You can’t. You have to break your old beliefs to move forward.
Example: You fell with a bike when you practicing for the first time. The experience was pain and the consequence was a belief that riding a bike is hard and that you can’t do it. Logical!
You have to leave behind the things you have believed to be the sole truth. The truths that have taken you this far are also the things that are holding you back and limiting you to move forward.
Stop with your beliefs. They belong to your past. If you want to move forward, you have to leave your past in the past.
You can’t move forward if you have wrong beliefs. For example, you could believe that you are not good enough, not worthy enough, you are not young enough, not old enough.
These are all beliefs that are meant to be broken. You are not defined by your past, or by your thoughts. You are defined by your actions.
Let go of the past. Let go of the beliefs that are holding you back. Let go of your thoughts that are not supporting you anymore.
Habits that don’t support your dreams and desires
Habits and beliefs go hand in hand. Beliefs control your actions and actions forms your habits.
Habits can be dangerous to yourself. They can harm you, not in the way of physical harm but more like mental harm. You see, habits that don’t support you may harm you.
You live your life by the rules you have created for yourself. You have created habits that either support your new goals in life or are harming those.
I’ve had to change my habits quite a bit. I needed to change my habits to evolve. I had to cut out things in my life that didn’t support my path to success.
I needed to create new habits to achieve more. Old habits were limiting me. One habit I had before, was playing video games. I have always loved video games and haven’t been able to let go of those.
I have always played a lot of games, like a lot. It’s a habit. The habit of playing games. However, at one point in my life, I realized that if I play video games, I don’t blog, I don’t grow my business.
If I don’t grow my business, I don’t achieve the thing I am after. I can’t achieve my goals in life if I do things that don’t support the goal I have set for myself.
It’s so logical but so damn difficult to change your habits. You have always lived in a certain way, and now you have to ditch the old life and start a new one.
You need to do that to achieve the thing you are dreaming of. Your old habits don’t support you. You have gotten this far by doing things in a certain way. Now, you have to change those. You have to do it for yourself.
You love yourself, and you need more in your life. You can’t spend your life on things that don’t push you in the right direction.
2. Forming new beliefs and habits
Key to achieving your goals in life or anything really starts by forming new habits and beliefs. You need to have new things in your life that turns your dreams into reality, turns desires into your way of life. Makes you take action.
First, we needed to break old beliefs and habits, and now you need to form new ones. But how do you do that? How do you form new beliefs and habits when you have lived a life in a certain way before?
Let’s assume you are new to these concepts but kind of know, that you need to change yourself for the better. You need a change in your life.
You start with the thought of what you want in your life, what is your goal. What you need in your life.
One of the best parts of being human is that we start to think of possibilities and we are natural problem solvers. We start to think about options and ways to achieve a set goal. You kind of have an idea of how something could be, but that idea hasn’t yet fully manifested.
Creating new beliefs to achieve your goals
You need to create new beliefs. You start inside. You tap into your inner power and start thinking what is the thing you are good at, what is the area you excel in. Maybe you are a natural problem solver, and maybe you enjoy doing things with your hands, maybe you like math. It can be anything.
The most important thing for you to evolve is that you leave your past behind. Every time your mind says that, no, you are not good enough. You can’t do this. You don’t know how to do that.
You need to stop thinking destructively. You need to start to think as you can, you will, I am, and I can do anything. If you think about it. What is stopping you? You can think of this way if you want to.
If you are reading this, you are already a person that has realized a change is needed. You need more for your life, and you and I are the same. I am just like you, and you are just like me.
We both have dreams, desires, hopes, and fears. We have goals, and we want to achieve them. You need to believe in yourself. You have all the resources you need, inside you. All you have to do is say to yourself. I can. Say it. I can and I will.
It’s all about reprogramming your inner beliefs to make yourself believe that you can. And here’s the key when you believe (not think) you can, you start to find ways to transfer your beliefs to action.
You are creating yourself a new you. Your old you took you this far, now you need to create yourself anew. I needed to do that.
A small personal story about belief creation
To give you a small personal story. I was once bullied in middle school, and it left scars inside me. The bullies told me that I was dumb and not good enough.
The time period was destructive to me and very difficult to live through. However, when I gained more confidence and started to develop my mind, I noticed that all I needed to know was my strengths and the walls of ‘me being stupid’ came crashing down.
You see, I needed to find the reason why I thought I was stupid. It wasn’t because they said I was stupid and dumb. It was because I said the same thing to myself. I increased the feeling myself. It was a feedback loop built inside me, by me.
Yes, I still regard myself as stupid in some matters, but the thing is I don’t care. I know that if there’s a topic I want to learn and want to know everything about it. I can learn. There’s no stopping me; I can learn anything there is to learn. I know that.
There’s nothing that you can’t learn. It’s all about you and your desires to learn. If the subject you would like to learn is something that you don’t want to learn, of course, you don’t learn it. This was the case with me.
I needed to learn that I can learn.
Believe that you can change and you can. Create new beliefs, and the world will open to you. It has opened to me, and it will open to you too.
You are able, and you have all the strength inside you already. You don’t need anyone else to achieve your goals.
You are the one you need.
Habits that are formed from new beliefs
Having a new belief system inside you. You start to create new habits for yourself. It’s not even that hard. You are now a new person and want to achieve the goals and desires you have inside you.
You form new habits that support the goals you have set for yourself. You believe in yourself. You start to act in new ways, and the habits follow along. They will form themselves anew.
Once I started blogging, all was new and scary. Obviously, because I hadn’t done that before. I knew, however, that for me to succeed, I needed to change my habits. I needed to start doing the work and quit playing those video games.
I had to change my habits of watching movies, tv-series and doing unnecessary things for me to evolve. I just had to. If you think about it. What is it that you have in your life that is finite? Time. You don’t have time as much as you have money, you don’t have time as much you have air.
Habits and the things you do in your life is all tied to time. Time defines your progress. Time defines what you can achieve. If all you do is use time to something that is not pushing you toward your goals, you are doing yourself a disservice.
You are not using your time efficiently. Time, habits, actions, desires, beliefs, all are tied together. You need to change those. You need to align them towards your goals.
You can’t achieve anything if you haven’t developed habits that are aligned with your goals. It’s so simple and so cruel at the same time.
I didn’t want to give up video games. I want to watch more movies. I want to do so many other things in life. Time. I don’t have time to do those things. I need to use my time towards my goals.
Habits have to be reprogrammed, but thankfully that can quickly be done by changing your beliefs. As you change your beliefs you see your habits forming anew automatically. You see things from a different perspective. Habits and goals are aligned.
3. Change your surrounding
The last step for you to achieve anything in life is your surrounding, and this is so damn important. This is something I just discovered, and it was the final click I needed to my brain and mind.
When I figured this out it, all became crystal clear. I now understand my life and my potential. I understand what is needed and how I can achieve anything. I just get it.
Let’s dive in and get that change in you going.
Until this point, we have talked about bad beliefs, habits and how to change them for the better. You now know you need to create new beliefs and habits to succeed and achieve anything in life.
The last piece of the puzzle is your surrounding.
So many say that you should get a mentor, or move to another city, or surround yourself with people that share the same passion as you do. Changing your surrounding in other words.
So few take the time to think, that what if you just don’t have anyone close to you that shares the same passion, what if your whole country doesn’t have anyone that is trying to achieve the same as you. What if you are alone?
Well, surely there are people in your country that want the same things as you do. Undoubtedly, but it could be that you can’t find them. And this was it when it clicked to me.
I realized that the way for me to achieve the success and goals I’m after, I need to surround myself with things that pushes me in the right direction.
As we all know, social media and the internet is something we continuously tap into. We can be present or not in social media. However, what you need to do is gather people (blogs and business owners). Facebook groups, for example, is one way to connect with like-minded people.
You can also join email lists that share the same passion as you do. You can join Facebook groups that are aligned with your goals. You can Pinterest boards that give you ideas to turn your dreams into reality.
Change your consuming habits. Change your online surrounding. Online is anyway the place you hang out quite a lot of time. So change your news feeds to support your goal.
This was a major breakthrough for me. You see, I have always followed different gaming channels, gaming news, movie news and so on. I ditched them all. I changed them to online business channels, entrepreneur news, I changed my surrounding to support my goals.
So anytime I go to Facebook, Pinterest, read my email, I get a dose of inspiration. I don’t get distractions.
It’s important to tune in to the things you desire. Surround yourself with people and businesses that you think can help you. Can inspire you, and give you advice. You need to do that.
You need to get information that is aligned with your goals. You don’t need to know what is the latest movie that hits theaters this month. You don’t need that if it’s not aligned with your goals. You just don’t
You can get that information so fast to yourself that you don’t have to follow some movie reviews Facebook groups or anything. Only get the information for yourself when you think you need it.
What you need in your life is a new online surrounding if you can’t change your physical surrounding.
4. Goal setting in a S.M.A.R.T way
Now that we have covered your inner strength and gave you new ways to direct your mind and surroundings to support your goals. We can dive into a S.M.A.R.T way of setting goals.
S.M.A.R.T comes from the words:
To set yourself goals. They need to have structure and they have to support your willpower and strength of mind. If you set too high goals that are just not going to happen. Like, “I want to be a millionaire, tomorrow 12PM” -that probably won’t happen. Except if you already are one. Then the chances are pretty high.
Let’s look at how to create S.M.A.R.T goals.
Let’s have an example in blogging. For us to be specific we have to set a goal that creates tangible results. Results you can see your experience.
The specific goal in blogging would be to write a blog post. That is a specific goal as it is defined and is something we can understand.
A bad example would be a goal of “mow a lawn”. This kind of goal isn’t something that has an end or a beginning. It’s not even specified as to whose or where.
Continuing with the blog post example. We have set a goal of writing a blog post. Instead of just writing a blog post, we have to define how many words should it have.
If you just start writing a blog post without limits. Then how can you know, when you have achieved your goal? You can’t.
By defining a word count, for example, writing 2500 words is a measurable and specific goal that you can go and accomplish.
By having defined an end to your goal. You know exactly what is still left of your goal and what you need to do to achieve that.
Setting lofty goals is always useful in life. You are aiming for something and you either slowly make progress towards it or achieve your goals daily. It all depends on your goals.
With the blogging example, we have here. Writing 2500 words is achievable but we have to realize in what time frame we have set that to be achieved in.
Writing 2500 words in 30 minutes is extremely challenging. But writing that in 3-4 hours is already much more achievable.
So when you define your goals do also take into account the time but also your resources.
If you want to become a millionaire. You have to realize what it needs from you. You have to study and research what is needed from you so you can achieve that.
A lot of things are possible in life but there has to be a reality check on time and resources you have to achieve your goal. If you have time and you accept that your goal is a big one. Then also realize that years could be needed to achieve that goal.
It’s realistic to write a 2500 word blog post. It’s also realistic to lose weight in a year. It’s also realistic to save 20% of your monthly salary. What might not be realistic is to have a million dollars in your bank account tomorrow if you are dead broke.
It might not also be realistic for you to fly to the moon if you are not an astronaut or a billionaire.
While those examples were a bit of an extreme, it was intentionally done so. Because I believe a lot of things are possible in life if time, resources, realism, and clearly defined goals are present in goal setting.
While this was already somewhat covered. Timely is here to remind you that not everything is possible to achieve in a short period of time. More than often a long term thinking is required from you to achieve the goal you have set for yourself.
Some goals can be achieved in the next 30 minutes and some goals can take 3-4 years. If and when you have clearly defined goals, do also attach to it a realistic time frame to accomplish your goal.
For example, 2500 word long blog post/day is a suitable goal to have. Though it can create pressure for you. It’s still achievable, realistic, measurable and at the end of the day, you have written that blog post you set out to write.
A final note
Dreams, desires, dreams, hopes, and goals need a new you. You have been able to walk to this point. For you to move forward and achieve your goals in life, you need four things; new beliefs, new habits, new surrounding and a S.M.A.R.T way to achieve those.
This is so logical if you think about it. How can you ever achieve the things you want in life if your life is not aligned to achieve those. It’s impossible. If I were to play video games and expect my blog traffic to increase 10% next month. The equation is impossible. It’s just not possible.
You need to work on your blog to increase that traffic. You need to do things that are building towards the goal. For my blog traffic to increase, I would need to focus on the things that grow the traffic. Reading a movie review doesn’t do that.
This all might seem like, of course, it works like this. Yes, I know. Changing your beliefs and habits is one of the most challenging things there are.
You have to ditch your old self and build your self again. You have you to create a new you. And that is not an easy task.
One of the easiest ways to build yourself again is this: You are not defined by your past. You define your future, go and create it.
You need action, and that is the only thing you need. You need to act on things and break yourself free from the things that hold you back.
Don’t be defined by your past. The things you have done in the past belongs to the past. They will always be part of you, but they are not you.
You define yourself and by doing that you will create new habits. Surround yourself with things that support your goals, take you further and finally, you will change your dreams to be the same as your life.